Are you looking for more than the American Dream?

The American Dream.  You know the one.  Get good grades. Go to college. Get a good paying job. Fall in love. Get married. Get the giant house with the white picket fence. Have kids. And continue the life to ensure that your kids can live the American dream too. But what if that American dream wasn’t your dream?

Towards the end of my senior year of high school, I determined that my dream was not your stereotypical American dream at all. My dream involved far more adventure and far less money. My dream involved something more. This sure came as a shock to everyone when I graduated valedictorian of my senior class and didn’t go to college. That’s right. How many valedictorians do you know would choose to forgo a full-ride to college to instead travel halfway across the world to follow God and a dream? Not a lot. But I was sure that I was meant for far more than what society expected of me. And I am still sure of this. So how exactly did I ignore the requests and demands of society and follow that still, small voice of God saying “I have more for you”? Well let me tell you; and hopefully by the end, you will see how you can gain the courage to step outside of your comfort zone and seek more for your life too.

First, I learned exactly whose opinions I should seek.

Too often do we look to our peers, society or our culture to confirm our actions and decisions. But the truth is that there is only one person who we really need to look to when it comes to confirmation and affirmation, and that is our Creator. In Matthew 6:25-33, Jesus shares with the crowd of people the need to let go of anxiety and look to God for all they need. There is a need for faith when it comes to trusting God with your future.  Many times, His plan will look exceptionally different than what the world is expecting. Just look at the way Jesus arrived on the scene. The Jews were expecting a conquering king, and instead Jesus came as a tiny baby in a lowly manger who would eventually die to save mankind. (Mark 10:45) Don’t be afraid if God calls you to something out of the ordinary, because that’s where you can experience the extraordinary.

Second, I learned to dream bigger.

Gone are the days when you could never rise above the situation you were born into. Everyone loves an underdog story; and I’m going to let you in on a secret, God is the biggest fan of an underdog story! Countless times throughout the Bible, God uses the least of humanity to bring about the greatest change. Just look at the story of Israel conquering the Promised Land. They were far smaller than the other nations; but with God, they conquered and overcame. (Deuteronomy 7:7-8) They dreamed bigger and trusted God for the things they never could have achieved on their own. Like the Israelites, I trusted God when it came to my future and believed that He could take me into bigger things. With that faith, I traveled to New Zealand, Thailand, Japan, China, Israel, and back again all in the span of six months for the sake of sharing the good news of Jesus. And God wants to use you too. He wants to work through you to bring glory to his name and manifest his power in the nations.

Third, I gained a passion for the Great Commission and started to walk it out.

In simpler words, I decided that I wanted to live in obedience to God by living a life devoted to missions and the spread of the good news that overwhelmed and transformed my life. Do you want to see the Great Commission (Matthew 28:18-20) fulfilled and obey the last command of Christ? Then guess what?! You have a heart for missions too. And missions doesn’t have to be big and crazy, traveling to the ends of the earth to eat snakes and bugs and dying for the gospel. Missions can be done right in your backyard or in your workplace or in your own family. I got to start living out my dream for missions when I did a Discipleship Training School (DTS) with YWAM and got to travel to all the countries mentioned above to share the good news of my Savior, Jesus. God used this first experience to call me into a lifestyle of missions. Today, I get to teach the Bible daily to students who are eventually going to be sent out into the mission field and spread the gospel to people I could never have reached. And it all started with me saying “Yes” to the bigger plan that God had for my life.

Adventure is calling you too.

As I look back, I wouldn’t trade my decision to forgo the “American dream” and instead adventure with God for anything. The experiences I have had, the people I have met, the miracles I have seen, and the faithfulness of God I have witnessed far outweigh any white picket fence dream in my mind. Stepping outside of my comfort zone and dreaming big with God took me to a place I never could have imagined three years ago. The fact that I get to study and teach the Bible to eager students is one of the biggest and most unexpected gifts that this path led me to. My story radically changed when I handed the reins to God and started to let him lead. He has got a wild crazy adventure in store for you too. Are you ready to go along for the ride?

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You’re Going to Meet Jesus!

“You’re going to go do a DTS? You’re going to meet Jesus!” A stranger looked at me with tears in his eyes, as this shocking statement hit my heart. Meet Jesus? I already have! I was not sure what this statement meant, but it was the third time that someone had leaned over a table and said this to me as I prepared to follow Jesus into missions. I was going to do a DTS (Discipleship Training School), and all I knew was that the doors were opening and money was coming in; in mysterious and mind-blowing ways. I also kept meeting these people called “YWAMers” who, when they heard I was going to do a school with this organization, would almost always respond by saying, “you’re going to meet Jesus.” Sometimes I was confused and taken aback by it, but this statement hung in the air.

It was the longing of my heart to truly meet Jesus and to learn what it actually meant to follow Him, a concept that I’d tried to embrace but miserably failed at. I felt constantly unsure, afraid, and convinced that if I made the wrong move Jesus wouldn’t love me anymore. How could I follow Him, lay everything down, and give my life to share Him with those who are lost? I didn’t even feel like I knew Him, and the things I had been told about Him, didn’t seem to match my broken, sinful experiences. I had run away, I was far, far away and I didn’t know how or why God would use me. But I took these tiny steps. I felt blindfolded, when I was actually just blind, but I heard what I thought might be Him and followed.

I followed Jesus to Montana and He met me there. I had never seen the love of Jesus, I had never experienced real relationship with God, but had only heard about and hoped for it. It was in following Him that I experienced it. So, enamored with His grace, I continued following and I’ve followed Him to different cities and countries around the world learning about His love for the magnificent peoples and cultures He created.

And you know what? I haven’t stopped meeting Jesus. I meet Him daily and I follow Him daily. Will you? Has He called you to the nations? Is He calling you to know Him and make Him known to others? Following Jesus is a daily thing that guides our lives. What is that quiet voice saying to your heart? Will you listen? Will you follow?


Thinking about following Jesus into missions? Learn more about a YWAM Discipleship Training School!

A Discipleship Training School is a 5 1/2 month intensive missions and discipleship course. The journey begins in Lakeside, Montana where students get to learn and grow in the Lord followed by traveling to an outreach location to make God known in the nations.

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“Have you Discovered Your Calling?”

THIS IS OUR CALLING.
We go into the world to bring the love of Jesus to those living in fear, to those who are orphaned, to the lost and hurting world. We do this because He said to go. There is no option to stay. We desire what He desires: that all should know him. He knows their names, he knows their hearts. He sends us so that they will know His name, to know his heart for them.

Whether we are working in our hometown, going to school, or a world away — the calling is the same. We sacrifice our lives in order for Jesus to show himself through us. We forsake all grandeur for this Simple Gospel: that the love of God is capable of changing any heart. Every day we insist on Jesus, because He is the only way. How do we know this? We have experienced it. We have seen time and again the depth of God’s love for us.

So, let us go and proclaim the love of Jesus. Let us not rest until every person has heard of this love. Let us walk in the fullness of God’s calling in our lives. Together, let’s be the physical extension of God’s love to the people around us. There is a world waiting for this love. Who are we going to reach out to this week? Who in our communities have not heard of this love?

We pray that you would be bold this week, that the love of Jesus would flow through you. We pray that He would fill you to overflowing with his love in every moment, of every day. That God would create divine appointments for you as go about your week. That He would show up in the line at the grocery store, that you would hear his voice as you drive to work, that as you wake in the morning He is there.

To the ends of the earth, and every person we meet along the way.


Thinking about getting involved in missions? Learn more about a YWAM Discipleship Training School!

A Discipleship Training School is a 5 1/2 month intensive missions and discipleship course. The journey begins in Lakeside, Montana where students get to learn and grow in the Lord followed by traveling to an outreach location to make God known in the nations.

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10 Ways to Help Refugees Feel Safe in Your Classroom

Never have there been more displaced people in the world than there are right now. That is what the United Nations High Commissioner for Refugees (UNHCR) reported earlier this year. According to the report, there are currently about 65.3 million people who have been forced from their homes. Among them are over 20 million refugees, over half of whom are under the age of 18. The size of this massive population makes displaced people, as a whole, the 22nd most populated “nation” on earth—nuzzled between France and the United Kingdom in recent population surveys.

As churches and mission organizations grapple with these overwhelming figures—and ask the question “What can we do to help?”—many Christians around the world will find themselves face-to-face with a refugee in the near future. For most refugees who find themselves suddenly in a country which isn’t their own, one of their most pressing needs is to find a friendly teacher who can help them navigate this difficult transition. This might include learning a new language, a new form of currency, an entirely new education system for your children, and much more.

So whether you are heading overseas to a refugee camp in the Middle East or Africa, or volunteering at a language school in your hometown, here are a few ways to help refugees feel welcome and safe when they’re in your classroom.

The following tips are brought to you by the TESOL schools at YWAM Montana-Lakeside, where we equip missionaries with tools to transform entire communities through the power of relationships, education, and the gospel message. Our next TESOL course, beginning in April 2017, features a special focus on the refugee crisis, and participants will receive a teaching certification and a wide range of practical skills to help them make a positive impact for refugees—both at home and abroad.

Creating Stability

“When it comes to learning, a safe and friendly place is the best place.”

1. Break Down The Wall

Take out a blank piece of paper. Draw a line down the center, splitting the page into two columns. On the left side, make a list of all the struggles a refugee faces as they transition to life in America (or in whichever city or country you find yourself). If you don’t have time to make a complete list, then write only 3-5 things that resonate most deeply to you, such as: learning a new city’s public transit system, finding meaningful work, and recovering from the traumatic stress of war.

Next, make a list on the right side of the paper to include all the ways you want to help. These can be very practical things, such as: taking a refugee on a fun adventure for the day by exploring your city’s bus routes, or sitting in a coffee shop and teaching them a few phrases relevant to their new occupation (remember that some of these refugees were rural farmers while still others were doctors and engineers in their country, but now they may all be forced to work unfamiliar jobs, such as in hotels, restaurants, assembly lines, and grocery stores).

Some of the items on your list may be less practical, or less hands-on. For example, when faced with helping a refugee recover from Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), you may find that your only response is to pray and ask God for physical and emotional healing in their life. Whatever your response, having this simple two-column action plan is a great place to begin your journey of helping refugees in your community. It will align your heart with God’s heart, and will give you a vision and a hope for the plight of displaced people everywhere.

And this is more than just a list of actions and needs. Each of these difficulties are like bricks in a wall—a barrier separating each refugee from a future of untold possibilities. And there are practical ways, and even some delightfully impractical ways, that we can all help break down that wall.

2. Be Their Rock (Take Care of Emotions First)

Do you remember what it was like trying to study in high school when half the time you were distracted by all the feelings and emotions that go with being a teenager? Is that person interested in me? Should I ask them to the upcoming dance? What if I get rejected? What if I don’t get rejected!? This onslaught of emotion—whether positive or negative—can make it hard to focus on your math homework, yet these social pressures are a necessary part of navigating society. And no matter what stage of life we are in, we are required to complete tasks, both simple and complex, no matter what social pressures are being placed on us.

For a refugee, it is quite common for them to be feeling an extremely wide range of emotions while attempting to complete very complex tasks at the same time. Some of these tasks can be brand new to a refugee and may require a great deal of learning and practice before they can get it right. Imagine trying to learn a foreign language while still struggling with the loss of your spouse to violence. How might your studying be affected? And imagine the feeling of standing before a judge in an American courtroom, when the government of your previous country was complicit in a genocide against you and your entire community. In a way, we are familiar with the difficulty of learning while under emotional stress. We dealt with it, to some degree, as emotion-filled teenagers. Many refugees deal with it every single day, and some of them feel this pressure to a greater degree than we could ever imagine.

It is extremely important to take care of the emotional needs of anyone who is in the process of learning something new—and a new refugee may have a lot to learn. When emotions run high, learning becomes impossible. In fact, a student may completely stop learning until you’re able to correct whatever physical or emotional barrier is hindering their learning process. In order to help refugee students with their learning, we must be their “rock” (or show them how Jesus can be the ultimate anchor in their life). This might mean making sure that we’re emotionally stable ourselves. And before we try to teach our next lesson, it helps to first stop and ask the question, “What are my students feeling, and how can I help alleviate those emotions?”

In my personal experience, it also helps to avoid having balloons in your classroom or anything else that may inadvertently explode in the middle of your vocabulary lesson! I laugh as I think about this, but sadly, many refugees are all too familiar with explosions. And our classrooms need to be safe places where students feel a sense of security and stability instead of fear.

3. Create a Safe Space

When it comes to learning, a safe and friendly place is the best place. And there are a few practical ways for us to create such an environment in our classroom. One key to managing the emotions of your students is, above all, to manage their expectations. Try starting each class in the same way, using the same processes and activities each time. By doing this, your students will have a better idea of what to expect before entering your classroom. When your world has been flipped upside down multiple times and you’re unable to know what the future holds, it’s amazing what it can do to have a place where you know exactly what to expect, every day. Classrooms are some of the best places for creating this kind of trust and hope for the future, and it comes down simply to you being a teacher that manages your students’ expectations.

Another thing you can do is to greet your students at the door each day. Many refugees come from “warm-climate cultures” that value hospitality and friendliness much more than the refugee’s new host country. Thus, politely greeting them at the door before every single class—and, similarly, making sure to gently honor them as they depart—can go a long way with developing your relationships. And as you try to take care of your students’ expectations it is helpful if you keep the seating arrangement the same for every class (even if this is only for the very beginning of each class). As language teachers, we often like to “keep things interesting” by moving the furniture around the room. However, you can create a little more stability in a refugee’s life by making sure they’re able to start each new lesson in the same seat.

Valuing Culture

“We have to adopt an attitude that we are learners more than we are teachers.”

4. Understand Their Story

Alright, so by now we’ve connected with a group of refugees and we’ve helped them find emotional and social stability. Where do we go from here? It is important for us to increase the understanding we have of our students. As we move forward in our relationship journey with anyone, we naturally move from being “strangers” to being friends. And one of the steps of that journey has to be “understanding.” Learning more about that person, and letting them and their story affect our own. This is how many great friendships are created, and sometimes it happens so naturally that we don’t even notice it. Suddenly, we realize that we’ve become great friends with this new—and once strange—person.

Understanding someone from a different culture than your own, however, can take longer. And it can require more of a process, and more intentionality on your part. There might be some serious cultural and linguistic hurdles that you will need to overcome before you can have the sort of lasting relationship that we all find to be so meaningful in life. As you can see, you need to make every effort to get to know your refugee students more. Listen to their story, let it sink in and have its affect on you, in order to cross the divide of strangeness and misunderstanding.

Take heart, because this means that you (the teacher) now need to become the learner. You may need to start asking a lot of questions. You may need to do a little digging and researching. And you may need to look a little foolish, in order to one day become “friends.”

5. Know Their Name

You might be surprised to find out that most teachers I observe do not spend nearly enough time trying to learn their students’ names. Yet, a person’s name is one of the most important pieces of their identity and their story. It not only says something about them, it is them—it is who they are. So, getting it right should be at the top of your to-do list. Of course, learning new names, many of them with foreign sounds, can be quite difficult. Here are a few tips to help you quickly learn your students’ names.

Begin by getting their name in writing somehow, if possible. If you can see it in writing, then you’re more likely to remember it. You can try having them write it on a name tag, but this will only help you if your student is literate and uses the same alphabet as you do (if their name is written in Arabic, let’s say, then you will not find their name tag to be very beneficial and you will need to help them spell their name using your alphabet). And it is at this point that so many newcomers to your culture may start to think about adopting a new, less foreign name—such as “Mike” or “Jessica.” But every time you attempt to use your student’s real name, you honor them and help them keep this part of their culture and identity intact. You’re saying to them, “I value you, and I value your culture—I value your story.”

So get to know your students, not by their face but by their name. Use it often, and do your best to pronounce it correctly. I often find it’s best to take a moment right after I’ve met someone for the first time and ask them “How do I say you name? Am I saying it correctly?” And if you find yourself in a room full of new students, then do a fun icebreaker activity that will give you numerous chances to hear everyone’s name over and over again. For more on this, we’ve put a few of our favorite icebreaker activities in our resource, Fun Activities for Teaching English (see the activities titled Find Someone Who and The Name Game for a fun place to start).

6. Let Them Teach You

In order to ever begin understanding someone we have to adopt an attitude that we are learners more than we are teachers. Every good teacher must rely on being a good learner. And one way to express to your students how much you value them and their culture is by letting them teach you something. Create opportunities in your classroom for your students to instruct the whole group. It could be allowing them to create a collage that illustrates life from their native country, or letting them share a unique or differing perspective from their culture as it relates to the topic of today’s lesson. Once in a while, we enjoy hosting a “Language & Culture Party” where everyone from our language class is able to bring a dish from their country, and where we are able to have a meal together and celebrate all of the cultures in the room as we learn from one another.

If you are a language teacher and your objective is simply to teach other people your language, and never the other way around, then you are missing out on one of the greatest blessings that is right in front of you. And you are missing out on an amazing chance to honor and value the other cultures in the room. If you work closely with a group of multilingual people, then don’t miss out on learning as much as you can of their languages. You won’t be disappointed that you did, and in the end it will make you an even better teacher of your own language.

Building Relationships

“Do all three of these in the same day. This is how friendships are made.”

7. Have Fun Outside the Classroom

We’ve discussed some of the amazing advantages that classrooms bring, especially in the way which they create a safe and friendly space for learning. But learning can happen outside of the classroom too, and so can a lot of other things. Relationships, I believe, are meant to be created outside. I have spoken with teachers who struggle to understand why they didn’t see deeper relationships formed from their time spent teaching in classrooms. And my greatest encouragement to anyone who is seeking to build relationships through their teaching is to simply get outside the classroom.

Now it may be wise for me to give you a word of caution at this time. Despite your best intentions, you may need to be careful of your organization’s policies regarding fraternization, if there are any. And you definitely want to make sure you do what is acceptable and wise within the cultures represented. For example, in some cultures, if a male and female are seen alone together, it is automatically assumed they are a married couple. Still other cultures might not be comfortable with mixing genders in public at all, no matter the size of the group. So these are all things to be aware of, and might require some sensitivity. However, if you find yourself in a North American or European country, then it’s likely that you’ll have no problems scheduling a time to meet your students outside of regular class.

Plan a fun outing over the weekend, or host a movie night, or take your students to the grocery store and then prepare a meal together. Or do all three of these in the same day. This is how friendships are made. Be wise, be understanding, and see the transformation that comes when friends go outside together.

8. Be Their Guide (Walk Alongside)

We are all familiar with the image of the prototypical leader. That person who is willing to walk in front and lead the way. Oftentimes, they are also seen as the person who gives the most effort, and who gets the most fame in return. I don’t have anything against this type of leader, but I want to try to offer another model of leadership which I find to be valuable, especially for refugees.

A refugee who has been forcibly displaced from the world they once knew, doesn’t need you to be an expert lecturer, a fanciful storyteller, or a “sage on the stage.” They need more from you than to quietly listen while you recite all of your knowledge in the hope that some of your students passively receive it. Instead, your students need you to be their “guide on the side.” They need you to be there, to walk alongside them as they navigate their new world—as both parties actively participate in the learning process.

This principle is key when creating the type of relationship we’ve discussed so far—where you, as the teacher, are also committed to being a learner, and where you are striving to understand their story. Solidarity is what is needed most, not leadership and subjugation. They need a guide, and you need more understanding. Therefore, it is vital that, during this journey, you walk alongside your refugee students instead of solely out in front.

9. Be Their Champion (Stand Up)

Finally, when it comes to developing positive relationships while caring for the needs of your refugee students, it’s important to realize that on certain occasions they may need you to rise from your guiding role and for you to take a greater stand than ever before. You may need to raise your voice. You may need to exit the classroom and take it to the streets, to the newsrooms, and the courtrooms. Not only have refugees lost their home country, their family members, and their entire support network, but most have lost their voice as well. They may need you to take a stand and fight for their rights and needs as citizens—and as your friends.

At the beginning of this article I asked you to create two lists: one for the struggles that refugees face, and one for the ways you wish to help them in those struggles. Some of the ways you can support refugees will be very practical. However, there will also come times when a little imagination, innovation, and bravery are what is needed most. Is there something on your list that no one else will do, or even attempt? In what ways do refugees need you to stand up and be their champion?

Equipping for Transformation

“Bringing God’s practical love and Kingdom to those in need.”

10. What’s In Your Tool Belt?

Welcome to the starting line. This is where your adventure begins. There are tens of millions of refugees and displaced people out there who are waiting for you to be their champion and guide. They need a teacher just like you, and they have a lot to teach you as well. As you give them the tools they need to successfully navigate their new lives, it may be a good idea to take a moment to assess your own set of skills. Are there any tools in your “tool belt” that could do for a little sharpening?

We work with hundreds of students every year who want to be agents of transformation in communities around the world, bringing God’s practical love and Kingdom to those in need. With that in mind, here are two schools that I think you would find invaluable as you make a better world possible for those in need everywhere on the planet.

Teaching English to Speakers of Other Languages

Our TESOL schools are designed to train everyday people like you and me to be English teachers in any country on the mission field. Our upcoming course features a special focus on the refugee crisis, and includes a mini-outreach to a refugee community in the United States. This course is backed by an internationally recognized TESOL certification that can open many doors of opportunity, both in limited-access nations overseas and among the multicultural neighbors near your front door. Whether or not you have any prior training or experience as a teacher, this course will be an unforgettable learning experience.

Community Development School

The Community Development School is a course that focuses on equipping you to become an effective multiplier of community transformation from a Kingdom of God perspective. This course provides an overview of the issues involved in helping communities be transformed toward God’s intentions. It focuses on a Biblical understanding of the root causes of poverty and underdevelopment, and the strategies needed to enable people to overcome the hurdles to their community’s transformation. The key is people—transformed hearts, minds, and lives—resulting in transformed communities, societies, and nations.

As You Go

Winston Churchill once said, “I never worry about action, but only inaction.” And it is our hope that you will be able to pursue the dreams God has for you—whatever they may be, and however difficult or worrisome they may seem—and that he will completely equip and empower you for that future. As you begin, please reach out and share your vision and heart with us as well. And share any questions you have or challenges you may have experienced, so that we can be of help to you as we learn together.

May God bless you as you go.

 

Proud Moments as an SBS Leader

There are always moments when I find myself feeling proud as an SBS leader, not proud of myself in any way, but proud of the things that I witness, either in my fellow missionary members or students. I am not a parent, but I would compare what I feel to that of a parent proud of their child. I believe this is something that God gives us and allows us to experience for those that we are responsible for in leadership. God wants His kids to know He is proud of them and will reflect that leaders. We, as leaders, need to be willing to feel it and express it to those that we are leading.

My proud moment came during class. We were in the final book of the Pentateuch, Deuteronomy. It is Moses’ last hoorah to the second generation of Israelites who are about to enter the Promise Land and conquer it. He is calling them to remember all that God has done, bringing up various laws and commands, and reminding them to be faithful to the covenant. It is an incredible book. The whole Pentateuch is awesome because I believe a person really gets to see what God values, His character, and His desire to dwell with His people.

It was during the various laws and instructions that the students really began to question and wrestle. They were really struggling with how black and white some of the commands were and how “harsh” the consequences of breaking the commands were. As I was observing from the back, hearing different questions and thoughts from the students, it was at this moment that I became very proud of them. Why? Because they were asking really hard, deep questions. It wasn’t to be difficult or challenging, but to understand why God said what He did. They really wanted to know deeply who God is and why He was doing what He was doing. The questions that they were asking ultimately not have perfect answers, or even answers at all, but they were still asking them and wanting to talk about them. What this communicates to me is that I have a group of people in the classroom right now that deeply want to know God and ask hard questions because they want to understand. They were okay with not getting perfect answers, and we, as missionary members, were okay as they kept asking more questions. It was environment of discussion, learning, and seeking God honestly and earnestly and being okay no matter how the question was answered or asked.

This makes me proud of both of my fellow missionary members and students because not once did my missionary members ever say, “Stop asking so many questions!” And not once did the students say, “This sucks, I want more answers.” Instead, they simply asked more questions and my missionary members kept being willing to discuss and ask questions with the students. It was awesome to be a part of and I was overwhelmed with pride for that group of people sitting in that room talking about God. God was very proud of them because they were open, honest, seeking Him, and asking hard questions, which ultimately showed a desire to learn more about God and grow in their understanding of Him.

God loves it when His children seek Him. God loves questions. God loves when we wrestle with Him. Why? Well, I believe it is because we are giving God an opportunity to show up in our lives and reveal Himself to us. I don’t think He will always answer our questions, and our questions may lead to more questions, but that’s okay. God will show up, He will help you with the questions and He will give us more understanding about who He is and it ay not relate to the original question we had to begin with. This is the beauty of God. His ways are not our ways. His way is the better way, even when it comes to answering our questions and how He reveals Himself to us.

If you are in leadership, be okay with questions. Be willing to process and discuss with whoever is asking questions. Most importantly, don’t feel like you need to answer all of a persons questions. Some of the most powerful words that come from leadership or teachers of God’s word are, “I don’t know.” Not because we haven’t thought about it, but because the answer goes so far beyond us that God needs to respond and we need to be okay with allowing God to work in the hearts of those that we lead. We can’t be the answer to everything, but we can be a sounding board and a safe place for people to wrestle.

Be that safe place. Be willing to ask questions with those you are leading. When moments come that you are experiencing God’s heart for someone, express it. Let them know that God is proud of them and He is okay with them asking the hard things because He is and He wants to show up in that persons life. We as leaders either need to express God’s heart for His kids, if God is telling us to do so, or get out of the way so that God can do it Himself.

Unexpected Blessings

I was born and raised in the Latin American country of Costa Rica, ten years ago the Lord called me into missions. I started in my home country and then God called me to leave. In 2010 I moved to The United States and in 2011 to Montana to work with YWAM Lakeside. I have been serving here with my husband for five and a half years. It has been an incredible privilege to serve the Lord through missions, our family has seen very fruitful times in our lives and the lives of others. But I have a confession to make…

 

I struggle with homesickness, missing my family and friends dearly and longing to go back to my country. Many times I have felt guilty and selfish, thinking to myself, “I am a terrible missionary” and “God is so disappointed in me!” ”How can I feel this way? I shouldn’t have said yes to Him!” When these thoughts come up, the tears roll down my face. I miss my parents, the food, the weather, and my culture.

Our first child, was born 16 months ago, my pregnancy turned out to be very difficult and of course all of the food cravings I had were for Costa Rican food. I had always dreamed of my baby shower in Costa Rica as its usually your mom and sisters (if you have sisters) who will throw you the shower. In Latin culture when it comes to baby showers you go big or go home, and you see, in cultures like the one I come from, children grow up surrounded by grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, friends, etc., and they all love to help out with the little ones. This was my expectation for when I had my own. But I had to survive without the Costa Rican goodies and giving up my desire of the baby shower I always dreamed of where my mom and sisters were there. I also had to give up on having my mom around for the first months of my newborn. My parents got to meet her when she was three months old, and when we go to Costa Rica we usually only stay for 3 weeks and the time flies by. When the time comes for my parents to drop us at the airport I am weeping as I go through the airport doors and often through the airplane doors too. The last time we were there my kind husband reminded me that I needed to come to terms with the reality that after 3 weeks we were leaving. The fact that my parents have been denied a U.S. Tourist visa doesn’t make it easier.

 

Recently the Lord called us to move long term to Taiwan. Our goal is to be there by the beginning of 2017. Meaning, I am changing cultures one more time, and we are moving even further away. I decided to bring this up to the Lord, and what’s interesting is that He didn’t say I was the worst missionary, He didn’t say He was disappointed in me, He also didn’t reassure me of why it was all worth it, instead He simply, kindly, lovingly validated my feelings. He said “Carla, I know how you feel.” It took me a while to recognize what He had just said, I think I was in shock at first and then I just burst into tears. For the longest time I didn’t feel like I had to “fight” God on what He said, I didn’t argue or try to prove a point to Him, I surrendered to his words and I melted in His arms and cried. Like a loving father he just let me be in his presence grieving. And I understood that missing your family, your culture, your country is actually a beautiful thing. He, after all, had planned it all out for you to be part of your family and your home nation, but also I understood that His calling on my life and my family is a privilege. That He trusts us enough to release us to partner with Him on his great plan of redemption for mankind. Don’t get me wrong, I still struggle and I still have my moments, but when I do I go to the Lord and say “Jesus it’s one of those days…” I now sit in his presence and let him comfort me.

If you are in ministry struggling with what I struggle with, you are not alone, sometimes we need to know this: That God understands and that others do as well, that you are not a bad servant and that its ok to feel this way as long as we continue to give it to the Lord to be able to move on and be present for where He has us and what He is doing through us and in us. God has been so generous that we have been able to spend time with my parents-in- law as they moved up here to do their DTS, also my sister was granted a visa to work here at the Lakeside base so I get to see her often. I was blessed with a super cute baby shower where women I love and appreciate were there loving on me and my baby, and God has provided friends that I consider family. This is what I need to see and focus on when I am feeling blue, the blessings of God where I am at. It’s different than my expectations and what I had hoped for, and this feeling might never go away, but He loves me and He is there every step of the way and have experienced unexpected blessings along the way.

Do You Need To Make An Appointment With Grief?

I have a long story but I will give you the short version.

My childhood had many significant rough patches; the kind of rough that needed a lot of healing in these young adult years. I have had to bring many memories and people before the Lord and ask for him to give me the grace of extending forgiveness though much of which was never asked for.

The last few years have been a mixture of some of the most joy and most pain I’ve experienced yet. I became a Bible teacher, which has been such a rewarding job. I got married to the man I love and God surrounded me with best friends, women I count on, plus I live in Montana and believe me, it truly is the ‘Last Best Place.’ I have also been away from my family for a long time. I’ve been watching my mom slowly die from a devastating disease and I have had to learn to say the big goodbye every time I leave her because it could be my last. I myself had to get tested for the same disease and though my result came back clear this year, my little sister tested positive. See what I mean? That’s a mixture.

I often find myself asking God a LOT of questions. Why me? Why us? Why now? Why this? Why did you allow that? All of which are valid questions. He doesn’t answer every one of them, but he has been gracious, tender and kind as I wrestle him daily on these different subjects.

Last year I went through a significant amount of grieving, which some days looked like my husband coming home to find me in a heap of tissues and tears and some days it felt like paralyzing numbness. I reached out to many people and from those conversations, one piece of advice stands out loud and clear. Someone I respect told me, “Laura, it sounds like you need to make appointments with your grief.” She was right. There were so many times I would try to keep juggling all my normal life tasks and push my pain down.

I would busy my brain and schedule with more than I could handle SO THAT I wouldn’t stop to think about the weight that was crushing my chest. Of course this caused surprise-attacks, like one afternoon standing in the line at Walmart. I was behind a woman who looked like my mom and I weeped uncontrollably while being checked out myself. You can imagine that poor cashier’s face. What about when I hear my 20 year old sister talk about her bucket-list of things she wants to do before the 5-7 normal years the doctors have given her, are over? I can’t explain the sort of numbness it ‘requires’ to keep it together thinking about how unfair that is.

Of course this all bubbles over. Of course that is NOT God’s plan for my grief. I recently taught the Book of Job and it so challenged my view of what I do with my pain. Am I stewarding it well? Am I treating it with respect and giving it room? No. I wasn’t and the more I pushed it down, the more it pushed against me. OR what about when I went to the other extreme? Spilling it uncontrollably all the time; being the only thing I can think about therefore being the only thing I can talk about. Letting it rule and run my life, my relationships and my decisions. It is exhausting. Are you exhausted?

I was and don’t get me wrong; this is still a daily struggle. I have learned to make appointments with my grief. To sit down before the throne room of God and weep. To fall apart, on purpose. Sometimes it looks like being alone, finding a place to actually use my voice and cry out to God; to spell out my hurt and explain my confusion. To be heard by God.. and myself. Other times it means getting together with someone who loves me enough to listen. Who won’t try to fix anything but who I trust to be a pillar of truth. They trust who God is and they know under it all I trust him but in this moment, I need to express my doubt and pain; and they let me.

The biggest trick is being aware you need an appointment. This isn’t like you’re bleeding out so you’re rushed to the ER; this is long before that. Like forcing yourself to regularly to take time to ask God and yourself how you’re doing and to actually listen; to not be afraid of what will come up when you pause and are stuck with your own raw thoughts. I realized that, when listening, often my heart is trying to tell me I need to take the time and often God is speaking to me about the pain I am trying to manage alone.

 It is not just for us that we seek healing and comfort in our grief.

The thing is, hurt people – hurt people and healing people – help people heal.   It is not just for us that we seek healing and comfort in our grief. We learn about our Comforter when we take time to seek him together, when we humbly invite God into our brokenness; that’s part of why he came. When we stand together as the Body of Christ, all healing in our own way and leaning into his grace and peace, together we mourn and together celebrate his strength in our weakness. Our grief is an invitation so create a reminder on your fridge or set one on your phone. You may have an appointment coming up…will you be there?


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A Discipleship Training School is a 5 1/2 month intensive missions and discipleship course. The journey begins in Lakeside, Montana where students get to learn and grow in the Lord followed by traveling to an outreach location to make God known in the nations.

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Just Because It Hurts, Doesn’t Mean You’re Doing It Wrong

If you find yourself daily pursuing God and still running into challenges, grief, pain, and exhaustion, then I would like to say, “Welcome.” My name is Brooke, I have loved Jesus for eight years, and I get it. I’m with you. You’re not alone, you’re not doing life wrong, and your pain is not a product of being “out of the will of God.”

As Christians, we are often under the impression that once a person meets Christ, life should be exciting and fun all the time. This Hollywood concept creeps into our lives in more ways than we realize. For example, many of us get tricked into thinking that Christian marriage should always be full of compatibility, affirmation, encouragement, and sex. Or that a job, especially if it’s in “ministry”, should be totally and completely fulfilling, every moment, every project, every day.

I have been a Christian long enough to know that this is not true, but I am not immune to this way of thinking. And in fact, I have been bitten by disappointment more than once for believing that my life should, eventually, look this way.

Let me get one thing straight – life with Jesus is full of purpose, meaning, joy, peace, excitement, and fun. The beauty of having a relationship with the King is that any sort of work is Kingdom work, and anything can be used to glorify him.

We know this, but sometimes we don’t experience it. Sometimes, even in the best season, we don’t feel the best. This is what I want to emphasize today: Faithful Christians still experience disappointment and discouragement, and it doesn’t necessarily mean they’ve screwed up or have been disobedient. It’s just a product of being a human, and it’s meant to bring us to a place of perseverance and steadfastness.  

Although I try to purge the idealized image of a “perfect-happy-never-sad-always-sunny Christian life” from my striving heart, there are two major areas that I am susceptible to a skewed perception: love and calling.

Misconception #1 – Love

A little more than a year ago I got married. I knew going into it that Zach, my husband, would not “complete me.” I knew that he was imperfect. He had candidly shared past mistakes with me and we walked through disagreements, sin, and faults together and in pre-marital counseling. What I didn’t realize is how much real love would hurt, and how often I would find myself disappointed. I had hopes and dreams about what every-day life would look like as a married couple.

For example, I am a “words of affirmation” gal. There is nothing that makes me glow like time spent in discussion and exhortation with the one that I love. This is something that Zach does, but it’s not his primary expression of love. Maybe it’s because I’m a female, or maybe it’s just me, but I always expect more affirmation than my husband thinks is necessary. To him “good job” is an exuberant expression of honest affection. My question is “Why was it good? What did you like? How can I do better?” But that’s just not how he thinks. It’s not a poor reflection on his character, just a difference in communication.

Nonetheless, I felt like I was lacking in the area of positive reinforcement. But what’s worse than feeling a certain disappointment, is the feeling that if you had done something differently, you wouldn’t be experiencing this. I realized that I was holding to the belief that since both my husband and I love Jesus and love each other, we wouldn’t hurt, disappoint, or displease each other. Therefore, I began to assume that I had done something wrong.

Misconception #2 – Calling

Five years ago I followed a life-long passion and what I believe was God’s voice, and I ended up with the job of my dreams. Essentially, I get to teach the Word of God to 50 brilliant, passionate missionaries. And even more than that, I get to walk with them through the school; through the moments of revelation and tears, through the sin and the redemption, through the reconciliation of the past and the launching toward the future. Have you ever heard of someone living their “calling” at twenty years old?

And yet, in the midst of working the job of my dreams, I realized that work is… well, work. Once again, I find myself with misplaced expectations, believing that if my job was my calling, it wouldn’t feel like work. Every day would be exciting and I would jump out of bed in the morning. Monday would be a pleasure.

But that’s not how I felt every day. There are days when I’m flat-out exhausted. There are weekends when I’m working long hours on tedious projects. And to be honest, there are a few critical aspects of my job (in ministry, mind you) that I don’t particularly love, and/or am not good at.

Again, I am caught believing that since God called me here, I shouldn’t be feeling this way.

Well friends, I have to confess…

I was wrong.

What I have learned lately is that we are setting ourselves up for disappointment if we live under the impression that we will never disappoint or be disappointed. Obedience to God doesn’t always look like the “straight and narrow.” Sometimes it’s narrow and bumpy and winding. And that means that sometimes, we (yes, even Christians) get hurt, feel misguided, bored, purposeless, undervalued, and disappointed.

The best things in life might be free, but they are not easy. They require effort, determination, forgiveness, and staying on the course. It’s the things that push us toward God, not toward comfort, that are worth spending our lives on. The idea that the Christian life, love, and vocation is easy is a lie. If you are a Christian, then you are a human and you are not without fault. You are not without emotion. And you are not invincible. That means that people will hurt you, and you will hurt them. That means that your job will be difficult at times – even if it’s the one you’ve been dreaming about all your life. How do I know this? Look at the life of Jesus. If anyone has suffered, been disappointed, betrayed, hurt, burdened, worked tirelessly and been exhausted, Jesus has done so even more. And yet, he lived the most purposeful, glorifying, impactful, God-fearing, loving, and fulfilling life that has ever existed.

If you are a Christian and you have an imperfect marriage – you’re normal, and you’re not alone. In many cases it is the lows that make the highs possible. It’s the moments of rock-bottom and raw vulnerability that create closeness and intimacy. It’s the pain mutually experienced and the forgiveness lent that establishes longevity and impenetrable friendship.

And when it comes to “calling”, no project worth your time will be without sacrifice. If you are tired, staying up late, bearing with difficult people, shedding blood, sweat, and tears – good. What better cause is there to exhaust yourself with, than to work well with the job God has put before you? What better reason do you have to be spent than to be spent for the sake of the Gospel? Just because it requires effort or involves mundane moments doesn’t mean that it’s not your “calling.” (And I’m not just talking about jobs that are technically within the boundaries of ministry. Any vocation in which the worker “seeks first the kingdom” will be glorifying to the King.)

So yes, sometimes life hurts, love leaves you raw, and work feels like work. Even then, don’t fall into the trap of believing that you’re “doing it wrong.” That’s just life. And it’s totally worth it. Don’t give up and don’t back down when it doesn’t feel as good as you think it should. As James so eloquently put it, “Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness” (James 1:2-3). So, press on friends. Your life – the victories and the trials – done through the guidance of the Spirit for the glory of the Father, are the clearest pictures of the gospel that the world will ever see.

Thinking about getting involved in missions? Learn more about a YWAM Discipleship Training School!

A Discipleship Training School is a 5 1/2 month intensive missions and discipleship course. The journey begins in Lakeside, Montana where students get to learn and grow in the Lord followed by traveling to an outreach location to make God known in the nations.

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A French Connection For Salvation

One of the YWAM Taipei Staff, Julien, was at the Rock a few weeks ago and led a young man to Christ in a really unique way!

Julien tells the story below:

Lately God has been challenging me with my faith. He has been wanting me to ask for more challenges to increase my faith in Him. So here is proof that He is real.

This past Monday (February 1st) was a long day.  I got up at 5:30am to read the Word and pray.  I was then in meetings most of the morning and also taking care of a construction team from Montana. My friend Nathan and I had to ride on my scooter all day, going from shop to shop to compare prices for kitchen appliances.  It was a really bad day for driving on a scooter because of the cold and heavy rain we had in Danshui.  By 5:45pm I was ready to head home, get in my bed and sleep for the whole night, trying to forget about that cold and wet day, but I remembered I had to go to the Rock Cafe that evening, and that I had to prepare for the prayer time that I was leading.

There was nothing spiritual in me at that time, just logical thinking – I’m cold, wet, tired and I want to go home.  Well, I told myself it was pointless to go home, drive fifteen minutes there and fifteen minutes back because I was still going to end up wet somehow.  I decided to go get some nice mushroom cream soup and eat it at the Rock to have a bit of a quiet time and read a book.  At 6:30pm the phone rang.  Oh no, I’m in the middle of my meal. Come on…. I’m going to have to answer it because there is nobody else around. My Chinese is terrible and I am going to have to say that I’m sorry for not understanding them, again.  So I pick up the phone and of course a person is speaking super fast in Chinese and I have no clue what they are saying.  Therefore, I pull out my nice, “Sorry I’m french, my Chinese is not good, I can’t understand you.” And then all of a sudden I can understand the language, but it’s just weird because I don’t understand why I understand. Then I realize that this person was speaking fully French.  I end up telling this person that the Rock will be open at 7:30pm, as usual and that they are welcome to join us then.

7:30 comes around and a 20-year-old kid comes to me and starts speaking with an incredible French accent and pronunciation.  We end up talking about all and nothing until he asked me why was I in Taiwan.  Well let me tell you buddy.  So here I go, explaining the whole missionary calling and sticking in some miracle stories here and there.  Usually by that time the people lose interest because they think I’m crazy for following God in missions for the past ten years.  But this time this kid was so intentional and kept on asking questions. Before I knew it, I was sharing the whole Gospel to him and this is still all in French.  I could tell that the part about God being our Creator and our Father in heaven impacted him, so I shared some more about the Father, how He wants to have a relationship with us and how He loves us.  By then I’m starting to think that he might accept the Lord this same night, but the faithless part of myself reminded me about all those other times when I thought the same thing and nothing had happened.  By faith I asked him if he wanted to be part of God’s family and he said yes!  I was a bit shocked because I had never gone that far in the conversation before when I was preaching the Gospel.  So here I go, sharing the need of Jesus and all I know is that I am all of a sudden taking him through some verses in Romans. Then this kid proclaimed with his lips that Jesus is his Lord and Savior and that God is his Father!

Boom, chakalaka! What just happened? Did I really led a 20-year-old Taiwanese dude to the Lord and all in my mother tongue? Dang, God is good. And all I wanted that night was to be in my warm and comfy bed. God has a greater plan for us even when we don’t seem to be fit for it.

To Him be all the glory.